For caregivers
Caring for someone you love? You don’t have to do it alone.
You are not failing. You are carrying too much alone. If you are caring for your husband or wife, or for an aging parent, you already know about the burnout, the isolation, and the hard choices nobody warned you about. Spouses are usually the first caregivers, and often the most alone. bēkn exists so your church can help carry some of that weight.
Where to start
Three things you can do this week.
Read the two-part guide
Our two-part guide, “Caring for Older Adults… and for Their Caregivers,” walks through the challenges families face and the practical steps that help.
Part 1 (PDF)Part 2 (PDF)Tell your pastor
Many caregivers never say out loud what they’re carrying. Give your pastor this page and ask whether the church would talk with bēkn.
What bēkn does for churchesPlan ahead, before the crisis
Wishes for care, illness, and the end of life are far easier to talk about before they are urgent. Start with “Bury Me in White.”
Read it (PDF)
You are not alone
Most care in America comes from people like you.
The face of family caregiving in America is often a woman in her early 50s, balancing work, family, and the growing needs of an aging parent. Yet caregivers come from every generation, including older spouses managing their own health. Sixty-one percent of caregivers of adults are women, their average age is about 51, and those caring for someone over 50 give an average of 26 hours a week (AARP and National Alliance for Caregiving, 2025). Burnout, isolation, health problems, and financial strain are common, not a sign that you are doing it wrong.
“Gray hair is a crown of glory; it is gained in a righteous life.”
Proverbs 16:31Encouragement and guidance
Reading for the hard seasons.
Start a conversation
Tell us what you’re carrying.
Write to us. We’ll listen, point you to resources, and if you’d like, help start a conversation with your church.